The Man who was Everything I Didn’t Want.

Let’s take a stroll down memory lane. Just a decade back. Not so far back in the day when I was walking uphill (both ways!) through the snow on my way to school. πŸ˜‚

I met a man. He was everything. Everything I didn’t want to date. He was a redneck. He drove vehicles older than me, with rust holes and parts made from PBR cans. And, he was in the military.

We went on a few dates. Not every one is as they appear on the outside. I had a wierd feeling in my gut. One I had never had before.

This man. The one who was everything i didn’t want to date was also a gentleman. He opened doors for me. He was sweet. We stayed up all night talking.

But, then.

Isn’t there always a but then? He told me he was going over seas for at least six months. Active duty. Couldn’t go into more detail. Alright. Decision made.

“Thank you for your service. I wish you the best of luck. We can’t date. I will fall in love and then you’ll die.”

I know those sound like harsh words, but that was exactly what came into my head. And, immediately out of my mouth. No filter.

He was a little taken aback, but what could he do? Well, let me tell you. He could make sure I didn’t forget about him. He would stop in where I worked. He would call at closing. I worked at a small casino near the downtown bars. He walked me home a time or two.

And then, nothing. Our lives diverged for a month or two. He fell out of my brain.

Remember I said this was about a decade ago? Ahh, the BlackBerry days! With the tiny little screens. If there was a way to make the images bigger, I didn’t know it.

I woke up one morning, after closing. Barely awake, but my BlackBerry had made noise. It was a Facebook request. From some dude with shaggy brown hair. From Aftica.


At that time, my Facebook was set to only friends of friends being able to find me. Who was this guy anyway? I set my phone down and went back to sleep, thinking I would check my laptop later.

When I did finally get on my laptop (much easier for a Visually Impaired person to see on, at that time), I recognized that it was that man. The man that was everything I didn’t want to date.

What do I do? And, how did he find me?

I thought about it for a few hours. Maybe a few days. This was a decade ago. Memories fade. I ended up accepting it. What could go wrong? I could always unfriend him.

It worked out that as I was getting home from work and winding down before bed, he was waking up and getting ready for the day. We chatted about this and that, but mostly travel.

We both love to travel and explore new places. Between the two of us, we have seen every continent but the really cold one. We talked of places we had been. Places we would go together.

Yep. He sucked me in. I fell.

It took a little bit after he returned but we started dating. And, within the first month of dating, we were road tripping. We have travelled so many places in the last decade. So many adventures across the United States. And, one 30 second U-turn into Mexico. πŸ˜‚

We’ve never travelled internationally together though. Until now! Total spur of the moment, on a whim and an invitation to see a local Irish musician, we booked tickets to Dublin for a weekend adventure!

Don’t you love how things in life come together? The one big thing that brought this man who was everything I never wanted to date into my life was dreams of travel. Now this man is everything. Simply that. And, we are about to start our international adventures together.


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